HOLDING ONTO ANGER IS LIKE DRINKING POISON AND EXPECTING THE OTHER PERSON TO DIE.
When someone has hurt us, emotionally or physically we experience many different emotions. The one common emotion felt is ANGER.
We are so angry at that person and can get consumed into wanting them to know how much pain they have caused us and also wanting some justice served. I understand this fully, as I have experienced this feeling first hand. I was so angry when 2 intruders turned my life into an absolute turmoil in 2007 that I was so terribly angry with everyone. The intruders, people who told me what I should or could have done, plus the Justice system that I felt had failed me to capturing them.
After some time, I realised that the only one that was being harmed by all my anger and resentment, was ME. Those 2 intruders were probably happily carrying on their daily tasks, as well as the Justice system. I certainly could not forgive of forget what had happened, but I definitely had to find a way to let go, release or channel my anger. The anger was just eating me up daily and creating terrible stress and unhappiness.
I started to explore some different methods to help me with this, as I did not want to go to see a traditional therapist and talk about this incident. I was fearful to relive and re tell this story all over again. The person I saw helped me tremendously to find ways that I was comfortable with and never once did I feel re traumatised.
Here are a few suggestions to help you to work on Anger: –
VISUALISATION – This helped me a lot. I was able to change the outcome of the situation in my mind and be empowered as opposed to being a victim.
MEDITATION – This really helped to calm me and to help with sleeping.
EXERCISE – This helped to relax my body and get rid of excess tension.
JOURNALING – Writing down my feelings helped as I could not express them verbally. This gave me a voice on paper to vent everything and anything.
I then discovered EFT or Tapping which I then started to learn and have found it a fantastic tool to work with emotions.
If you are interested to find out more about EFT or Tapping, send me an email kim@colmankim.com and I will forward you a Free EFT/Tapping Guide.
In kindness and support
Kim Colman
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