The practice of letting go is painful but if done clears space for all the good stuff to find you. Holding onto something that has caused you pain or stress is like having a thorn in your foot. It will keep pricking you and irritating the area until it is removed. The question is, why do some people hold onto pain and suffering? For some people this signifies a badge of honour, it identifies them as one who has been victimised. Some people feel that they want to punish the perpetrator that hurt them so much and that forgiving them in unthinkable. There are some people who believe that if they hold onto the painful experience, they can keep it from happening again by believing that your pain is protecting you.
“We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.” —Pema Chödrön from The Places That Scare You THE CHOICE IS OURS So, the question is, “How do you let go?”
1. Make the decision to let go, things don’t just happen on their own. 2. Stop being a victim and or blaming others. 3. Express your pain, sadness and your responsibility. 4. Focus on the present and celebrate the joys now. 5. Forgive them and forgive yourself.
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