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  • Writer's pictureKim Colman


There is always a lot of talk around the topic of SELF-CARE, and we all get this, and how important it is to practice this in order to keep our own energy cups full.

But, when we hear the word SELF-LOVE, so many of us struggle with this. We think that this may mean that people will see us as vain or egotistical. Some of us really battle with our self-worth and struggle to show ourselves love and compassion.

My favourite author Louise Hay wrote an article on 12 ways that you can love yourself, with some commandments that you can follow. Louise always spoke and taught with such passion, and the knowledge that she shared was always so easy to put into practice.

Here are Louise’s 8 Commandments to help you learn how to love yourself:

  1. Stop All Criticism. Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticise yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticise yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

  2. Forgive Yourself. Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

  3. Don’t Scare Yourself. Stop terrorising yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

  4. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

  5. Be Kind to Your Mind. Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

  6. Praise Yourself. Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

  7. Support Yourself. Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

  8. Be Loving⁣. Find ways to show love to yourself and to others.

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