Many of us seem to suffer from a lack of self-esteem at one level or another. It is very difficult for us to love ourselves because we have all these so-called faults inside us that we feel make it impossible to love ourselves exactly as we are. We usually make loving ourselves conditional, and then when we are involved in relationships, we make loving the other person conditional also. So how can we catapult beyond this thinking and take the next step in loving ourselves?
10 Ways to Love Yourself
Probably the most important key is to stop criticizing yourself. If we tell ourselves that we are okay, no matter what is going on, we can make changes in our lives easily. It is when we make ourselves bad that we have great difficulty.
We must also stop scaring ourselves. Many of us terrorize ourselves with frightful thoughts and make situations worse than they are. We take a small problem and make it into a big monster.
Another way is to be gentle and kind and patient with yourself. Most of us suffer from the expectation of immediate gratification. We must have it now. Impatience is a resistance to learning. We want the answers without learning the lesson or doing the steps that are necessary.
We must learn to be kind to our minds. Let’s not hate ourselves for having negative thoughts. We can think of our thoughts as building us up rather than beating us up.
The next step is to praise yourself. Criticism breaks down the inner spirit, and praise builds it up. Acknowledge your Power and cheer yourself on.
Loving yourself means supporting yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. You really are being strong when you ask for help when you need it.
Love your negatives. They are all part of you, just as we are all part of the Universe. Know that you are doing the best that you can and love those negative parts of you that show up.
Take care of your body. Think of your body as a marvellous house in which you live for a while. You would love your house and take care of it, wouldn’t you? So, watch what you put into your body.
Forgive yourself. If you made a mistake forgive yourself as you would forgive others. Don’t beat yourself up as this will just lead to negative emotions.
Finally, love yourself now – don’t wait until you get it right. Once you learn to love yourself, you can begin to love and accept other people too.
Finally, love yourself now – don’t wait until you get it right. Once you learn to love yourself, you can begin to love and accept other people too.
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